Intense. There’s no better word to describe this first month. Maya’s life experience has created a very unique mindset. Humans have a tendency to personalise everything – and so, I think I understand her. She sees threats everywhere; many imagined, many real. So do I.
She thinks humans are dangerous standing up, but approachable if sitting down. All noises are alarming and gunshots in the woods are terrifying. The red sofa is home, heaven. The first fortnight involved a twice daily treatment for a serious ear infection in both ears. Sometimes I had the impression she hated me, or at least resented me but now the treatment is over things are better.
We’re bonding, learning from each other. She seems to be discovering the world for the first time. She’s been a prisoner in a shelter pen for years, so in a sense everything really is new. This is the closest to a “religious experience” I’ve ever had. She lets me put her on my lap at night. I hold her and tell her she’s safe. That everything is okay now within the high walls surrounding number 42. I think she’s starting to believe me.
She’s a Griffon Nivernais with a streak of donkey in her.
Wonderful!!! Lap time is a huge jump in the right direction.
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Yes, but only late at night when she’s too exhausted to put up a fight. I’m hoping she doesn’t contact the #metoo movement and Gloria Allred with accusations I’ve been manhandling her and putting her on my lap π
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Well, as long as you’re not also dressing her up as Alice [in Wonderland] I’m sure you’ll be fine π
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It takes so long as you have no idea what she went through before. Thank goodness she acceptes a cuddle. You…and she…are winning.
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She’s interested and friendly, within her capabilities. But she just really doesn’t seem to have a clue as to how to interact with people. Little by little we’ll get there!
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Are you installed at the old age home yet?
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Is that a suggestion?
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Sometimes when people your age go off for surgery the family don’t let them return home π
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I’ll try to avoid surgery then.
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I thought some sort of surgery was why you were on a writing break.
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No, surgery is a last resort! I live in the U.S. where medical treatment and procedures can be financially ruinous!
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Whatβs she eating? Are you cooking for her? π
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She was very difficult with food at first. I cooked a whole chicken and shredded it and she did like that. We’ve also tried ground pork and that worked well. Now she’ll eat anything, which is great!
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For a long time Rosie would not accept any treats and looked at all food suspiciously, then very slowly she began to nibble at bits, with the very gentlest of care, she still does when taking anything from the hand, but so far as he bowl goes she licks it clean. She still won’t drink any water or take any food at another house before checking with me it’s ok mind you. We are privileged to have them in our lives β€
– esme sat with her loving and loved dawg upon the Cloud waving at Mr Pink and Maya (and the other furries of course (not meaning Mike is a furry, unless he is))
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I thought you were taking us back in time to when the Spaniards overthrew Maya.
That dog looks at peace
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Yes, she’s definitely more at peace now. The first weeks were very complicated, though. She was constipated, refusing to pee…
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Hats off to you, Edouard and Mike, and to Maya learning to be safe and happy.
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I can’t begin to describe how fascinating it is to observe her mental processes, trying to figure out bit by bit how to behave and interact in a new world. To ease the stress we’ve put her on fluoxetine (prozac) which kicked in this week and we’re seeing a marked improvement.
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Brilliant.
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She is such a beautiful dog. And she did tolerate those awful ear treatments. She has a place and a person, maybe two people, that she recognizes as safe. All in good time.
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We’re getting there. She hasn’t forgiven me for the ears yet. When I walk into the room she’s on high alert and if I happen to have something in my hands she sticks her head (very cleverly!) between the sofa cushions π
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Yep. Jacques runs away any time I get his brush out and he doesnβt even have mats. I can just imagine the effect the ear thing had. Courage.
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If you were a parent, no child of yours would ever feel unloved or unsafe. Hugs to Maya. π
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I do my best. Don’t they say the best carers are people who weren’t cared for, or something along those lines?
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Actually no. People with empathy strive to give their own children/loved ones, the things they missed. Or sometimes, they try to reproduce the good things from their own childhoods. People with less empathy often inflict the same injuries on their own children because it’s all they know. ‘Sins of the fathers’ type thing.
I always suspected you were a very good man, now I know. Can’t hide forever. π
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Breaks my heart to think how some humans treat animals and gladdens my heart that you found her or perhaps the other way around.
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She actually hid from us, which of course got our attention immediately π
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I’m sure you’ll agree, there’s nothing wrong with having a bit of donkey in you.
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Indeed. In fact it her strong will and stubbornness were part of what impressed me. At first she absolutely refused to even be taken on a walk by us. She was doing crocodile rolls in protest.
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I was thinking of an old DVD, really. Nuns and Donkeys II. Must dust it down.
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Damn and I was just going to make a comment about you and a donkey H ! *mad face*
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Thank you for the comparison, Esme upon the Cloud, but you know I would never choose to brag. * smug face *
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Considering she had obviously been traumatised by her previous conditions, I think you have made a lot of progress with Maya. So many people would have given up, but kindness and endless patience are the way forward. We’ve never had a dog (though we both adore them), but have owned several very timid cats, the last & most timid one we adopted 6 years ago, and so can understand the trials you will go through. But, every tiny bit of progress is so very rewarding with a scared animal. I showed her picture to my husband, & he’s already in love with her. But he still says ‘we are NOT having a dog’.
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We were nervous at first. The shelter people told us they’d more or less given up on anyone ever taking her. But each day we see major changes. At least major in or eyes π
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A religious experience? Dog spelled backwards is…Not that I subscribe to such sentiments.
Just as PTSD victims find solace in the care and feeding of a pet, your Maya’s own PTSD appears assuaged by her finding her own petβyou.
42 is a big place. Room for a dozen more, I’d say.
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Interestingly I see a lot of my own reactions in her – the difference is humans learn to hide and dissimulate π
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I am not a dog person, but I bristle when I see animals mistreated. I suppose some animals who act “skittish” might have been born that way, but I tend to think they are suffering from mistreatment. You seem to be doing what is needed. Good luck to you both.
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She’s an interesting case as we don’t know if she was mistreated. In the French countryside when hunting dogs aren’t very good at their jobs, they’re routinely abandoned. Then they turn into “wild” dogs. She seems to have no idea of how to interact with people, which leads us to believe she’s never really bonded with any humans.
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Wonderful for you to be doing this for her! She’s gonna be just fine, I’m sure. Thank Zeus you guys rescued her from the awful life she was living.
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It’s an amazing experience. Today when coming back from the walk instead of rushing back onto her corner on the sofa as she usually does, she took a few tentative steps around the red room. Fabulous! Every day there’s a little bit more confidence π
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So awesome to hear that!
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Thats a very photogenic creature you have there! π
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I’d happily take credit for that if it were in any way possible π
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She looks great! We live in a vintage high-rise and have a new to us 11 month old dog. The potty training is pretty intense – I feel like I live in the freight elevator! I keep thinking we may be over the hump, but then we have some more episodes. Keep it up – those little steps are really rewarding. Great pic of her.
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In that sense we’ve been very lucky. She’s not made any sort of mess indoors (yet). We seem to have the opposite of that problem which is getting her to “go” takes forever.
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I realize I haven’t written here in a while. It’s hard for me to comment on posts like this that hit me in the feels. I’ve probably written and deleted at least several comments to your posts here about Maya. They all sound mushy and insipid. Including this one.
You’re doing good work with her. Animals – at least the ones I’ve been around – have this way of cutting through human bullshit. Body language and behavior do not lie. She is making progress because you have communicated something true to her. Seeing her improve gives me hope that maybe people can have the same done for them.
How are things going, Pink?
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Depends on the day. Some days there’s huge progress, other days are more complicated.
Today was one of the ones we’ll never forget. She got overexcited/panicked and jumped from a bridge (about two and a half metres high.) Then I instinctively jumped after her. I got her and she’s fine. Then I realised we were both stuck because the walls around the stream were too smooth and flat for me to climb – also completely covered in moss.
Anyway, everything’s fine now π
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You’re Batman.
(You’re also a good man, following her over. That’s golden)
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In hindsight it was all adrenaline paired with insanity π But worth it!
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Get the CC footage of the bridge at that time.
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