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Life can be difficult

I usually make an effort not to talk about unpleasant things – but sometimes life just doesn’t cooperate with me. There have been two things this this year that have knocked the wind out of me. The first was a problem with the Spanish tax office (via the French tax office).

It’s all resolved now, they’ve admitted it was a mistake and we don’t in fact owe 295,655.82€ in taxes, or even 2€ for that matter. But the stress of proving that and the threats of having one’s accounts and property embargoed was a killer. Our lawyer says we can sue Spanish Hacienda for the trouble they caused us, but I don’t think either one of us has the energy. I do want an apology, though. And I’ve made clear that if I don’t get one signed by all three people involved I may rethink my lack of energy.

Bessie has died. She was ancient, and had dementia, but she coped very well with all of that and had a perfectly pleasant life. She was at least 18 at this point, and had been having minor strokes, and then a big one. She was the black one.

She had serious issues. They couldn’t cope with her at the shelter where we got her. She was too thin, scared of other dogs and people. We tried to give her a decent life. That’s all we can do. All we can hope for as living beings; to give those around us the best possible time we can, for as long as we can. Bessie never got around to accepting overt touching. She would come and lay on us, but if we touched her she would go away. Anyway, we’re taking the grief and transforming it into something constructive. We spent the day at the shelter outside Mazamet today. We met Maya, who was a stray and has lived for years at the shelter. Just like Bessie, she’s terrified of people and we think we may be able to fix that for her, so we’ve started day visits and we bring her home next week.

This is Maya:

59 comments on “Life can be difficult

  1. inspiredbythedivine1
    September 27, 2019

    Terribly sorry for your loss, but I’m excited to hear more about how things go with Maya in the future. My dog Kassey is my heart, and I’ve lost dogs before, so I know how you feel. Glad you had the time you did with Bessie. She was a lovely looking gal.

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  2. Arkenaten
    September 27, 2019

    The loss of a pet tears one to pieces, but we get over it. The new dog looks a smasher and I’m sure she’ll settle in just fine.
    Take a deep breath and move forward.

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      We’ve taken in two feral dogs in the past (that had never lived inside or with people), so we have a bit of experience. The first weeks are hard, but hopefully she’ll take the lead from the other two and start copying.

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      • Diana MacPherson
        September 28, 2019

        The other dogs should help. I found when my parents’ dog was afraid of loud noises & thunder, the fact that my dog would angrily bark at it, seemed to give him more confidence.

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  3. foolsmusings
    September 27, 2019

    I’m so sorry you lost Bessie. It’s tough losing a close friend. I’m glad you found Maya, it sounds like you’ll be good for each other

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      I hope so too! No point in sitting around depressed when that energy can be focused on doing something constructive!

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  4. clubschadenfreude
    September 27, 2019

    having a pet is an agreement with sorrow to meet at a later time. I have grieved far more over my furry friends than most humans.

    I have 8 cats now. Far more than I intended, but that’s what you can get from befriending a little lame kitty who turns out to be a fantastic momma cat. The one cat we had before the arrival of the dark legion of kittens is having a blast playing with them; the other (huge black fellow) isn’t so thrilled. But we have the resources to take care of them so we are. But what a bunch to get spayed/neutered, and of course one had to have a umbilical hernia that also had to be fixed.

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    • acflory
      September 28, 2019

      We never quite made it to eight but we adopted a kitty who became a mum too. Absolutely positively definitely meant to give those kittens away…but they were born in my bathroom, and my best friend Kushie became their godfather dog. What could I do? Love is love.

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      I relate completely! Our lives are 95% dogs and only 5% people 😊

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  5. acflory
    September 28, 2019

    I can’t ‘Like’ this post, Pinky. The events you mention so calmly must have been horrific. I know they’re over now, but the taxation thing should never have happened in the first place. I hope you get that apology, but if you don’t…sue the bastards!

    Farewell Bessie. Clubschadenfreude said it all ‘having a pet is an agreement with sorrow to meet at a later time. I have grieved far more over my furry friends than most humans.’ Yes.

    My fur babies are ageing too, and my mind tries very hard not to remember how old they are. You and Mike gave Bessie a life, and a chance for happiness, that she would never have had without you. That means so much. The fact that you’re giving another sad dog the same chance confirms you both as two bloody good people.

    Welcome Maya. -massive hugs-

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      The tax thing was such a huge shock. I’m always so careful to do those things properly, I couldn’t believe it could happen to us!

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      • acflory
        September 28, 2019

        I know, it’s a sickening feeling. In your case it’s compounded by the fact that it wasn’t justified.
        How’re you holding up?

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      • The Pink Agendist
        September 29, 2019

        It’s been tough. I feel battered. Fortunately we’ve had lovely people here all through the summer and that helped keep our minds on positive things. Onward and upward!

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      • acflory
        September 29, 2019

        -massive hugs- keep a watch on your health, and Mike’s health too coz stress like that can do bad things physically as well as mentally. Love to Maya. 🙂

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      • The Pink Agendist
        September 30, 2019

        We’re a little bit better now; but yes – the day the bill arrived I had a monstrous headache which seemed to last forever 😦

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      • acflory
        September 30, 2019

        Not surprised. :/ After having weathered the financial storm in Soto Grande, this must have felt like such a slap in the face. Thank god it’s over.

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      • The Pink Agendist
        September 30, 2019

        Exactly! Years of stress and then when we thought it was all over BANG! And as my head usually goes to worst case scenarios, I spent many nights awake examining the multiple disaster possibilities 😵

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      • acflory
        October 1, 2019

        I can only imagine. 😦 When you’re feeling up to it, you really should consider suing. Not for the money, but to help stop the same thing happening to someone else in the future. I know I’m a bit aggro, but injustice makes me /angry/.

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  6. Kaian
    September 28, 2019

    Courage, l’ami.

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  7. Helen Devries
    September 28, 2019

    Thank you for caring for Bessie and transforming that care for Maya. The best possible memorial for Bessie.
    As to taxes…they just hope you will give in and pay.
    Fat chance where we were concerned.

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      Yes! I thought that all the way through. If we didn’t have Spanish lawyers, I don’t know how we would have been able to fight this.

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  8. Robert A. Vella
    September 28, 2019

    I’m so sorry you lost Bessie, but so glad you found Maya and are getting past the tax foul-up. Something similar happened to me years ago and it was very unnerving. Best wishes.

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      Thanks! What shocked me most about the tax thing was that it went through three people and then a *judge*, and instead of checking the work, they rubber stamped it.

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  9. makagutu
    September 28, 2019

    Sorry for your loss. And man, if you don’t get an apology, sue those guys for the amount they said you owed. That’s how much stress you have had

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      I’m definitely insisting on an apology. What they did can only fall into 2 categories, either total and absolute incompetence or malice.

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      • makagutu
        September 28, 2019

        You must insist on one. Written and signed by their higher ups

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      • Diana MacPherson
        September 28, 2019

        In situations like this I always suspect incompetence because that seems to be human nature. They should not only apologize but pay something to you as a good will gesture without you needing to sue them. But of course that just doesn’t happen in bureaucracy.

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  10. Diana MacPherson
    September 28, 2019

    So sorry for the loss of your dear Bessie. I love dogs more than most humans so I understand how devastating the death of a little soul like that can be.

    And it’s funny that you make a point of not talking about unpleasant things when I find unpleasant things are all I can talk about. Especially if I can make it funny. 😏

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      Our whole life is the dogs. We never leave them alone for more than three hours, so we’re completely co-dependant. In this case it was a little bit easier because Bessie had such a long life and with the dementia we had some time to prepare ourselves for what was coming.

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      • john zande
        September 28, 2019

        Our whole life is the dogs. We never leave them alone for more than three hours, so we’re completely co-dependant.

        Jesus, that sounds familiar.

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  11. Bizzy
    September 28, 2019

    300K? And at the end it was oh, oopsie! I hate it when that happens. And look, it happened to you, me, Helen. It seems just routine over here. Grrr…..

    Anyway, good on you for rescuing dogs that others would leave behind. And congratulations for having the resilience to adopt another so quickly, and not the little cute ones that other people fight for. Bessie was lucky to have you. Maya will be, too.

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 28, 2019

      Imagine the shock?!?! And it came in the form of a 30 day notice of judiciary “execution”. All in a case where we weren’t ever contacted, so we didn’t have the right to defend ourselves. And you call the number in Spain and they say they can’t give you any information over the phone. Horrendous.

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  12. john zande
    September 28, 2019

    Safe travels Bessie. 18, that’s quite an innings! I’ll charge a glass to her tonight. You did what so many people don’t: you gave her a life and the chance to just be. I am certain if she could talk her last words would have been, “Thank you.”

    Maya, hello, you’re life is about to be marvellous!

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 29, 2019

      We’re in full blown prep mode today! That anyone knows of, she’s never lived in a home, so we’re setting up a lead that gives her access to the entire ground floor hallway (+35m2 of hard floors) and allows her to go outside for 6 metres. That way it’s fine if she makes a mess.
      We’ve created a tented bed area under the stairs that we’ve tried to make look like her pen at the shelter for familiarity. And DogTv is ready to go 😀

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      • john zande
        September 29, 2019

        Photos, please. I really want to see how she goes.

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      • The Pink Agendist
        September 30, 2019

        Tomorrow’s the big day, so that’s when photos begin. Today she’s at the vet being chipped and checked over 😀

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      • john zande
        September 30, 2019

        How did the play date go?

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      • The Pink Agendist
        September 30, 2019

        She’s very suspicious. We heard her voice for the first time and it’s deep, she sounds like the dog version of Kathleen Turner. We can approach but she winces. Anyway, we’re ready for the challenge. I think she’s in desperate need of a peaceful environment.

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      • john zande
        September 30, 2019

        Any idea how she reacts to other dogs?

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      • The Pink Agendist
        September 30, 2019

        Yes, we ran into dogs on the walks and she seems fine. Shy, but not hiding or anything. It seems to be humans that she’s terrified of.

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      • john zande
        September 30, 2019

        Well, I think she won the lotto with you guys.

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  13. Hariod Brawn
    September 28, 2019

    Treasure those photos, Pink, and keep at least one prominently displayed, eh? I do, and it’s great to feel the love come back at every glance. My Nellie. Your Bessie. Really lovely to see so many dog lovers here — a sure sign of a quality readership. Please don’t bother to reply, as I sense it’s all too wearying as far as Bessie goes. Love to you and Mike.

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  14. lanie belluz
    September 28, 2019

    I’m so sorry for your loss. If I got a tax bill that large I would have a stroke. Maya looks like she has some Irish Sheep hound in her. Love reading that you rescue. We have three rescues of our own.

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  15. Esme upon the Cloud
    September 28, 2019

    My last girl lived until 16 and a half and it was without doubt her time to go too so, but it still tears your heart up so I’m sending love across the aether to you all, (for dogs miss their friends just as much as we do), it’s splendid news you brought Maya into your life, rescues need just that and are so rewarding, all the more so for the mental and physical pain they bring with them because we give them the best home they could ever have, which is just what Bessie had. ❤️

    – Esme Cloud x

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 29, 2019

      Thank you! I’m not sure how the other two feel. Bessie was very Greta Garbo. While the other two are climbing on top of you on the sofa, she preferred armchairs, positioning herself so she’d be looking away from us.

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  16. Anonymole
    September 28, 2019

    Your smile sits kinda funny, but at least your heart is in the right spot.

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  17. maryplumbago
    September 29, 2019

    So sorry for your loss. I’ve had pets all my life, mostly dogs. I’ve loved them dearly and there’s nothing like the unconditional love they provide in their own way. Poor scared dogs to finally find a loving home…priceless.

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 29, 2019

      Thanks! We’re very fortunate in that we’ve got space and time, so we can make room for dogs that haven’t had much of a chance in life (yet!) 🙂

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  18. Jo
    September 30, 2019

    Sorry to hear about Bessie. Maya is an awesome looking dog though. Good on ya for taking a shelter dog!!

    Also glad you don’t owe 295,655.82€ in taxes… I imagine that would be super inconvenient…

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    • The Pink Agendist
      September 30, 2019

      It would indeed have been super inconvenient! The worst part was being given 30 days to pay the bill *or else*.

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  19. merilee
    October 2, 2019

    Maya looks ever so sweet, and just the right amount of goofy 😍🐾🐾

    Liked by 1 person

    • The Pink Agendist
      October 2, 2019

      She arrived late night All is well. She doesn’t want direct contact with us, but does want to be in the same room ☺

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      • Diana MacPherson
        October 2, 2019

        🥰

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